LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION CAN REALLY SUCK.

I asked my intuition what I needed to do to meet my man.


It raised an eyebrow at me quizzically, yes my intuition has eyebrows, it was feeling into whether or not I was ready to hear what it had to say.


‘Just tell me already!’


‘OK, stop dating.’


WTF?? Seriously!

My mission, handed to me as an indestructible message burned into my brain, was to only date guys I felt a genuine heart connection with. Which sucked! Because I never met guys like this unless they lived in a different country to me. (If alarms bells are going off for you on hearing this, you’d be right, I, however had no idea this was an issue, it was simply how things were.)


The instructions from my intuition might sound harsh, I mean how do you know if a heart connection even exists with someone until you've dated them for a while?


Well...I've always known.


Literally the second I'd meet a guy I intuitively knew if we had the potential to connect deeply or not. (This, btw, is something you can activate within you if it doesn’t come naturally yet.)
But I'd chosen to override this insight for years, mainly because it was hugely inconvenient to my ego.


If I’d not overridden my intuition I’d have had far less distractions from feeling not good enough, and my ego HATED me not feeling good enough. Sure, I felt this way often regardless, but the highs I got from dating inappropriate men were what I looked forward to, without the enticement of flattering attention, what the hell would I do? Become a lonely loser?


By this time, after multiple times of ignoring my intuition to my discomfort, I'd finally become wise enough to listen to it.

I stopped dating. I deleted my apps. I didn't engage with anyone I knew would only be a casual connection. 

It wasn't comfortable, but it was freeing.

I allowed my fear that I wasn't good enough to be with the kind of man I wanted to come up, which is how I was able to let it go. Through this healing work I came to love myself, I stopped feeling lonely and I began to delight in my own company. What had I been thinking? I was a catch!


I continued to listen to my intuition and a year or so later I made a snap decision to leave London and return to NZ. Which is where I met Phil, and he's amazing!


One way to get better at listening to your intuition and to reap the rewards from doing so, is to follow its advice when it sucks. When we only do the things we’re guided to that are comfortable for us, it’s like trying to get fit by having massages and avoiding working out. You’re getting part of it but you’re missing the major piece.


Change takes courage so I’m going to ask a question to your courageous self.


Is there something uncomfortable you’re being guided to do right now, and if so what difference to your life do you think it’d make if you followed it?