I NEEDED SOMEONE TO BLAME

When something in my life went wrong I felt horrendous, so I had to outsource my anger onto someone or something else. And unsurprisingly during this time of my life, things messed up a lot.


Small things that felt big like when I was living with a friend and an underwire from my bra got stuck in her dryer breaking it and costing me money I didn’t have. Or when I fell for online scams and paid for free services.


But also big things too, I finally got the break I was looking for, my dream career was lined up and I was about to walk into it when the owner of the company’s wife left him, he fell into depression and that was the end of that.


I blamed the bra, the scammers and the people who’d messed things up for me, I got angry and upset and that’s how I stayed stuck. Opportunities would arise and fall away for no apparent reason, and minor frustrations plagued my day to day life.


That was until I made a decision that caused a massive shift.

​I chose to take full responsibility for how I was feeling and the things that showed up in my life.


Through doing so I stopped giving my power away to the people and situations I was angry at and claimed that anger as something for me to move through myself. My anger was there to teach me something, to show me parts of myself I was denying, ashamed of, fearful towards, and as long as I was keeping them buried I couldn’t see my true magic.


So yes, sometimes I still get angry, but it takes a lot more to make me angry now than it did before, and when I get angry I acknowledge it and take time to feel through it. This in itself is a magical alchemical process that brings us closer and closer to presence, peace and living in fulfilled joy.


It’s taking ultimate responsibility for ourselves, which is the single most powerful thing any of us can do to create the harmonious world we want to live in.


Laying blame is so often our ‘go to’ response to uncomfortable emotions, if it’s not blaming others then we do it to ourselves. If someone makes us angry there’s massive temptation to blame how we’re feeling on them. Which is OK, as we must honour our true feelings.


But at the same time let’s also realise that how we feel has nothing to do with anyone or anything else, and everything to do with ourselves. We’re only able to be angered by the triggers and fears that already exist within us, and when we take care of these we always end up at compassion, both for ourselves and for others.


I’m now much more able to have compassion for those who think some things I believe are wrong. It took me a while to get here, but I’m grateful for the uncomfortable encounters with these people, and my ability to heal my emotions, as it’s allowed me to step more fully into peacefulness and therefore into my power. Remember that our greatest teachers are often not the people we love to be around.


I’m aware what I’m talking about is some next level mastery shit, and of course not everyone’s going to understand it or embrace it and many will continue to blame others for how they feel. But that’s OK, those people are needed too, they’re helping trigger many into deeper levels of compassion.


Everyone has a right to be where they are and to believe what they believe, no one is better than anyone else. We’ve all been judgemental and we’ve all acted like a**eholes at one point or another, and yet we’re all amazing and we’re all worthy of love.


So if you’re struggling, especially right now, with feeling anger towards others please ask for help.


It doesn’t matter what you believe, your perceived antagonists are your greatest teachers, they’re the ones providing you with the richest opportunities for growth and for living your highest vibrational life. All you have to do is own how you’re feeling because of them, and when you move through those feelings that’s a massive step towards creating the magical life you desire.


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