ARE RELATIONSHIPS HARD?

Mum and Dad on their wedding day in 1969

My whole life people have been telling me relationships are hard.


I listened, but I never bought into the belief.


As you know we inherit a great deal of our beliefs from witnessing our parents, and mine had a beautiful and easy relationship.



There was the slight hiccough in their marriage when Dad died of course, which triggered my belief that if you love a man he’ll die - so best not go there. However since having released that belief and healed the resulting commitment phobia I’m now in an awesome relationship.


And today is our first anniversary! Whoop, whoop! Happy Anniversary to us.


It’s an awesome, and novel thing to be a year in and getting excited about our future together instead of fretting about my exit strategy.


And our relationship is beautiful and easy!


Yes I know 12 months is a mere blip on the relationship radar. Only last Saturday we celebrated our friends’ 50th wedding anniversary. But we’ve started well and there’s a really important reason why we feel things will keep going great and getting better…



And that’s because we address the hard things when they come up and we heal and grow together because of it.


Of course there’s a reason why so many people keep saying that relationships are hard.


Relationships, romantic or otherwise, mirror to us what we believe about ourselves and the world. And our beliefs are not always easy. So when we’re in relationship that lack of ease will arise, hence creating a relationship that feels hard, and then subsequently a belief that relationships ARE hard.


But it’s not true, don’t buy into this limiting belief!


Relationships can be easy and magical and beautiful, AND they take focus, effort, vulnerability and many other awesome things that we’re, ideally, dedicating to ourselves anyway. If you’re not regularly doing this then that’s one BIG reason why you’ll be experiencing relationships as being hard.


Your most important relationship is of course with yourself so you need to keep dedicating time to YOU.


So if you currently hold the belief that relationships are hard, I urge you to challenge this belief, root out the underlying causes of it and change it!


Focusing on what you have that’s awesome already is a brilliant place to begin, so…


What relationship (any kind, sister, lover, daughter, friend), in your life is easy and beautiful? Tell me some of the greatness about it in the comments below.

UPDATE: We've now been together for three and a half years, and our relationship is still getting better. If you'd like to find out how I went from being forever single to being in my nourishing and sexy AF relationship click the link below and download my FREE roadmap:
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